Unexpected Activity

Today when I woke up I was set on having a slow, most likely boring day for myself since the family were going to away with the kids downhill skiing for most of the day. I thought that maybe I would finish Tocke’s character, walk to the city and buy some of the stuff for the event on Saturday and then if things got boring enough, take a bus home after leaving a note to the family as thanks for their hospitality.

As you could have guessed from the introduction of my post, this did not happen. Even the title can tell you that much. Yes, today had a really unexpected turn of events which mostly led to good things, I guess. Except the waste of money, or rather the investment since it was far from waste.

When I got into the kitchen and sat down to eat breakfast with the family I lived at their kids so badly wanted me to follow that they tried to think up all sorts of options to how I could follow them. They were really enthusiastic as children can be and it was really fun to hear to which lengths they thought they wanted to go just to make me follow them. The thing that actually triggered me to decide were that their parents actually seemed to do the same, but only in a more adult way.

So I decided to rent the equipment and just borrow some salopettes and tag along. It couldn’t cost too much1 and it would be fun to hang around with the kids for one more day. Not to mention the exercise I would get to ski in the nice weather. So I followed.

To sum it up; my equipment were too small – but manageable, I haven’t been skiing since last year2 and it’s been more than eight years since I jumped with skis in any way, not to mention that I’m stiff as a pole since I’ve completely slacked on the dexterity exercises since I stopped training with Foppa in August 2008.

But, of course one day is too little to slack with things like that. So I went with the Swedish saying; “Fullt ös, medvetslös!”, meaning that I just had minimal restrictions to my style. And since I mostly were with Nils3 we really pushed my limits even if I would have been in shape. He did things I just started to do just before I quit slalom some eight years ago and I never really learned properly. And most of the things I went for as well which now have resulted in a massive muscle fever in my legs and a painful ache in both my knees since I’m not good enough at bending my knees to reduce the impact on my legs when going down a mogul. And add to this that when going in the lift with a ten year old the lift will be in my hock…

Well, it was really fun and I got to meet a lot of the kids friends as well as their parents friends… or kids friends parents which the parents of the kids of course needs to be acquainted with since their kids will do a lot of things together. This is actually a quite funny thing I think. There are many different ways kids bring parents together and it all depends on the level of wealth of the kids and the neighbourhood they live in.

Some parents never do more than talk to their kids friends parents to check things while others often meet with them to get to know them better and even decide to do stuff together so their families would get a stronger bond. The latter is more normal in families which is a mediocre “Svensson” and have above normal wealth and also want and strive for quite a common life centred on their kids. Other parents aren’t as involved in this classical interaction through kids and are mostly satisfied with just knowing where their kids are, what they do and how to reach them. They seldom feel this urge to nestle with the other kids’ families and make this complex net of safety for their kids, which is both good and bad.

A nestled friendship circle provides more safety for the kids and also gives the kids a better relationship to each others, which is stronger than a normal friendship. This tough, might also isolate the kids and create closed circuits with friends and make the kids less probable to find new friends or even have an interest to develop any new relationships that are too far away from their base circuit. The other model gives more freedom and demands more from the child, even though the safety isn’t as strong as in the other. The thing with this model is that it has great potential but it doesn’t push the kid to become social, rather the opposite. The kid might be unsuccessful to find friends or find it too hard to try so it might become asocial in nature and more enclosed within him or herself, which they will suffer for throughout all of elementary school and even so far as to High School.

Well, I just find it interesting. Now I think I will throw myself into the shower since I’m exhausted from a whole day skiing and four fucking hours on the bus and then racing a girl back home here (quite funny story actually). And after this I will relax on my couch for a while before I go to bed. Tomorrow I need to finish Tocke’s character and prepare the session for The Outsiders.

Yeah, two Duo Sessions this week! I leave who and when to up to you, the sessions page seems to be working. I think that all my events for this week are marked in the calendar, or they will be after this post. Well, well… sweet dreams and memories, forever, forever4

Best Regards,
Herid Fel


  1. Actually the price were about half of what I was prepared to pay 

  2. When I went on that winter survival thing with the university 

  3. The ten year old, soon to be eleven, boy in the family who loves to jump and is a pretty good slalomer 

  4. I think only Foppa knows where that quote is from… and maybe Drak… 

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