Men… With or Without Emotion

Warning, this is one of these deep, for some of you, meaningless topics that involves psychology and stuff. So if you aren’t interested, you may as well stop reading…

Tonight’s topic is, men and emotion. Men as male ones, from early boyhood to elderly adulthood and the development of our feelings during this evolution.

At an early age, boys tend to like their mom’s best. They are like girls, or rather, like kids and not hiding away their feelings and emotions but showing them openly to everyone around them, and even making sure they are aware of their emotions, their mood and what they think about certain things.

But when growing older, and coming in contact with other kids, and the society boys successively hide away their feelings. Creating a harder more “macho” persona and in the same way growing more distant from their emotions.

My thought is, is this is natural? I mean that if it’s born behavior of humans, or if it’s induced by society and the development of the modern human world? If it were natural, which it could be, it would be because the male ones had a greater need to be more unattached to their emotions while fighting to survive back in the stony days. And if it were like that, it’s almost unnecessary now, when we need to rely on our emotions to drive us forward in life and even find a place that will bring us joy and happiness. Than this emotional detachment would be a problem, and make it all harder for men in particular.

But then again, today we have a pretty strict picture about what is and what isn’t manly or so, so if someone does something that aren’t manly (who is a member of the male sex) he would be considered queer or something similar, or at least feminine. But then again, we need these feelings, so some men tap into them and lock them up, the older they get, but being aware of what the society expect from one, they act like the society wants. And when they have found a source of happiness they can live with it without question if it’s right or wrong to lock away their feelings in an early age, and then take out a little just to feel a little when growing older.

A boy of six knows love, knows the feeling and wants it from those he admires. He doesn’t know the word and don’t think he need to know them as long as he gets what he wants.

A boy of eight knows love, but has just recently begun to stuff away feelings and then don’t want to talk about feelings but still seek it out from those he admires.

A boy in the end of his boyhood, in the beginning of his early teens have now almost completely cut himself off from his feelings, or at least don’t feel for them very often, and he have now started to reject and stop to seek out love from those that he have been close to. He now picks out one or a few people, real or not, present or not, for hero-worshiping instead. This way he now can at least direct that he think he need, without asking for it, and without feeling for it.

A boy in the middle of his teens, have now started to deny the fact that he have worshipped or even looked at one at great admire, and when the fact is inventible. He just answers something like “How far ago was that? I’m way older now, duh!”.
He has completely distanced himself from his emotions and denies to everyone that they even exist, or have ever existed.
Therefore he seeks out a relation, both for filling his sexual as well as his emotional hunger. He then let out small sips of emotions and feelings and leaves himself vulnerable when feeling safe.

My point is, the older the boy gets the more he isolate his feelings but learns other ways to not let himself have his feelings for free, but just what is necessary to live and become happy. But the bigger and more modern the society grows the harder it gets, and the bigger the expectations for the isolation of ones feelings gets.

I have started about a year and a half ago to try to release my feelings. Using my lucid dreaming and I have come to great achievements. Now I’m more open to my emotions and thoughts, which have sometimes left me vulnerable to undesired emotions that I had to take care of before continuing with my life. And even force myself to realize more about myself than I was aware of from the beginning.

But I think that everyone should try to release their feelings and let them free. It’s a wonderful feeling and it will help one survive through this life that can seem very rough. I know I need my feelings, and I know people who are dying inside because they can’t reach their feelings. So my advices, especially to men, don’t lock up your feelings inside. It hurts more than to have them unlocked.

That’s all for tonight, peace out friends.

Best regards,
Herid Fel